You are not an actor or a phony. You are exactly whom you seem to be. You want to be seen and respected for who you are: a tough, thoughtful, spiritual person of action.
Exude strength and confidence. Quiet relaxed posture, unclenched jaw and fingers, forget the fumbling and the fidgeting. Look like someone with a purpose. A leader who is asking open questions, maintaining eye contact, and leaning in with a positive enthusiastic demeanor. Nod and listen with interest to find common ground.
First impressions last and are formed in the first ten seconds usually without a word spoken. Everything counts. Your dress and your accessories should reflect your profession. You can look sharp whether you are a banker, a landscaper or a rock band manager. Find appropriate role models and copy their style.
Good people and bad people teach us how to act.